It happened that I spent too much of my life with
someone and that someone is gone, I started to realize that I never really miss his presence as much as I expect I will. Life goes on. And in
this world full of people ,companion is easy to find.
But now and then , something triggers a pinch in
my heart and reminds me of how life used to be when we are together.
The experimenter would question the child on a set of toys to gauge
which toys the children liked the most and which they found the least tempting.
The experimenter then chose a toy that the children really liked, put them
in a room with it, and left the room. Upon leaving the room the experimenter
told half the children that there would be a severe punishment if they
played with the toy ,and told the other half that there would be a moderate
punishment.
Later, when the punishment, whether severe or moderate, was removed,
the children in the moderate punishment condition were less likely to play
with the toy, even though now it had no repercussion.
When questioned, the children in the moderate condition expressed more of a
disinterest in the toy than would be expected towards a toy that they had
initially ranked high in interest. Alternatively, the desirability of the
toy went up for the children in the severe punishment condition
Why people do wrong things even though they know that it is wrong?
The children threatened with the severe punishment had a good external
reasoning for not playing with the toy because they knew that they would be
badly punished for it. However, they still wanted the toy, so once the
punishment was removed they were more likely to play with it. Conversely,
the children who would get the moderate punishment displayed insufficient
justification because they had to justify to themselves why they did not
want to play with the toy since the external motivator, the degree of
punishment, was not strong enough by itself. As a result, they convinced
themselves that the toy was not worth playing with, which is why even when
the punishment was removed they still did not play with the toy.
Are we convincing ourselves that what we do is worth doing just
because we are not suppose to do it?
That marks the end of my journey in Union , Blok
71, Morgan Stanley, etc. Now and then I have the feeling that I am going to
lose a big part of me. My entire life has been changing too much that I am
worry that I could not keep up with the pace. But things come and go. Everyday I have to remind myself of
which ones leave, which ones come, and which ones stay.
Life is meaningful only if we share it with
others. Even though most of the people
I know now will gradually leave my life, the moment we share together has
made my life more meaningful.
Baby , don’t u break my heart slow - Vonda Shepard -
I like the way you wanted me Every night for so long baby I like the way you needed me Every time things got rocky
I was believing in you Am I mistaken do you say, Do you say what you mean I want our love to last forever
But Id rather you be mean than love and lie Id rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye Id rather take a blow at least then I would know But baby don’t you break my heart slow
I like the way you’d hold me Every night for so long baby And I like the way you’d say my name In the middle of the night While you were sleeping
I was believing in you Was I mistaken Do you mean, mean what you say When you say our love could last forever
You would run around and lead me on forever While I wait at home thinking that were together I wanted our love to last forever
Well Id rather you be mean than love and lie Id rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye Id rather take a blow at least then I would know But baby don’t you break my heart slow
Many people believe that during
circumstances that force them to do something against their moral value,
They will be strong enough to restrain and do the right
things.
Yet, I have seen many rational
people behave irrationally.
Certain circumstances often leave us
with only one reasonable choice, sometimes that choice forces us to cross
our value and give up our identity. We took it and gave up ourselves.
Because at least at that time, it makes sense.
The circumstances change rapidly and
our emotions subside, then we begin to realize that we behave like the
people we used to judge. We regret what we did, and we are scared of what
ourselves become. The parts of us that we let go leave a hole in us. Our
choice does not make sense anymore ,
but what is done cannot be
undone.
My father once told me that even the
sharpest sword could not hurt a wise man. A wise man knows that given the
circumstances that he stands too near to the sword, he will bleed. He
will avoid the place too near to the sharpest sword.
Yet, I see rational people running
towards the sword every time.
We said we knew the consequences of
our decision but deep down inside we believe that we are exceptional, and
we are able to control our circumstances. However, life always leads us to
the way we never expect. Then we are left with only
regret.
