when we crave for what we don’t need…..

Dependencies is a state where we crave for something that does not fulfill any of our need.

Intimacy is a need to be fulfilled , but dependency is not.
For example , we all long for “love and friendship”  because emotional intimacy is a necessity.
But often in time people get used to being around each other and develop some kind of emotional dependencies.

There were time when I forget how good it feels to have a real meal alone,
even worse , I forget how to have a meal alone.

Sadly , while positive emotional dependency could lead to a successful relationship ,
it also could block people from getting true emotional intimacy.

Even worse , a lot of people are not wise enough to see the differences…

Like a Star - Corrinne Bailey Rae

Just like a star across my sky,
Just like an angel off the page,
You have appeared to my life,
Feel like I’ll never be the same,
Just like a song in my heart,
Just like oil on my hands,
Oh.. I do love you,

Still i wonder why it is,
I don’t argue like this,
With anyone but you,
We do it all the time,
Blowing out my mind,

You’ve got this look i can’t describe,
You make me feel like I’m alive,
When everything else is a fade,
Without a doubt you’re on my side,
Heaven has been away too long,
Can’t find the words to write this song,
Oh.,..
Your love,

Still i wonder why it is,
I don’t argue like this,
With anyone but you,
We do it all the time,
Blowing out my mind,

I have come to understand,
The way it is,
It’s not a secret anymore,
’cause we’ve been through that before,
From tonight I know that you’re the only one,
I’ve been confused and in the dark,
Now I understand,

I wonder why it is,
I don’t argue like this,
With anyone but you,
I wonder why it is,
I wont let my guard down,
For anyone but you
We do it all the time,
Blowing out my mind,

Just like a star across my sky,
Just like an angel off the page,
You have appeared to my life,
Feel like I’ll never be the same,
Just like a song in my heart,
Just like oil on my hands